Wǒ Men Podcast: Follow Your Heart

Along our career paths, we face so many challenges and choices.

How can I make the best decisions for myself? This is a question that bothers us for the majority of our youth. Growing up in the ’70s, ’80s or even ’90s, we don’t have role models for career development.

Looking back, our parents’ generation — who received professional training under China’s planned economy — was very much used to the idea of going to work from 8am to 5pm, and believed in doing the assigned job diligently. They were not aware of the difference between a job and a career.

In addition to that, working overtime was an alien idea to them: why should one work so hard for their employers, as it is the employer who benefits, not each individual?

Our generation grew up in a reformed China, where more job opportunities had been created, new industries were developing, and Western values like “career development” had flooded in. However, we are pretty much on our own to navigate these changes, and learn how to build our careers.

Jackie You

Without realizing it, we’ve stepped on a career development treadmill, where we believe the only direction to go is forward. As we march ahead and grow older, we accumulate more and more baggage — families, mortgages, and children’s tuition all become factors dominating our career choices. Is that the only path we’re destined to take? Is there another option?

Jackie You’s response to this questions is clear and sound: No, don’t let these factors affect your choices. You should follow your heart!

Jackie is an ex-investment banker, former CFO of a US publicly listed company, and an entrepreneur. On our latest episode, Jackie uses her personal experience to explain why your heart knows better than your mind when it comes to certain life choices — according to her, when your heart points you in one direction, you should just go with it.

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Photo of the day: 20-Story Dancing Santa

This week’s photo theme is China Plaza Xmas: ostentatious Christmas mall displays in China’s mostly secular megacities.

Not to be outdone by its neighbor to the north, downtown Beijing’s Topwin Center mall/office plaza has a gigantic Santa dancing on its glittering facade by night. Here he is again, mid-hip-swing:

This nimble St. Nick is actually one of several animations that flicker across Topwin’s glass face. Others include a flying sleigh and careening candy cane:

Topwin’s tree, while not projected onto the side of a skyscraper, is also pretty nice:

What You Can Learn in the Space of a Shanghai Cab Ride

She spoke into a WeChat group message as she drove. Twelve other drivers were a part of the thread, chatting about who they had in their cabs, how much money they’d made that day, complaining and cackling and creating camaraderie. The woman, who did not want to tell me her name, has been driving a cab for nine years — “just for the money.”

For foreigners living in Shanghai who work in international offices — who speak English over Italian dinners, yet still feel pride in their ability to order baozi in Chinese — one of the most reliably monolingual spaces in the city is the inside of a cab. You have to speak to your taxi driver, even if you choose the bare minimum: stalling with “Ni hao, Ni hao” as you get a SmartShanghai address up on your phone. But speaking Mandarin in a meaningful way adds another layer of value to the forty kuai (~ $6) ride.

One of the most reliably monolingual spaces in the city is the inside of a cab

 

The female driver in the lively WeChat group holds a rational and consistent philosophy about her profession. She’s not worried about Didi, the ride-hailing service that beat Uber on Chinese turf. “They do what they do, we do what we do.” She has a son. “Yes, how could I not have kids? Look how old I am.” Independence is her favorite part of being a cab driver. “No one takes care of you. You take care of yourself. But that also means no one bosses you around.”

Does she feel any discrimination as a woman? “No. Everyone lives their own lives. Why should they care?”

Another female driver I spoke to, Ms. Zhang, disagrees. After taking a short break to use a public bathroom on Xingfu Road, she hurried to her parked taxi and started the engine. I knocked on the door and introduced myself; she answered tersely through a cracked window.

“Well, this job gives me relative freedom. I decide my own schedule. But I get no respect. Especially as a woman.”

Zhang was especially dismissive. Most drivers were willing, and in some cases even eager to chat. In fact, once it became clear that I was interested in talking, a lot of the cabbies tried to turn the interview over on me. One man fired away questions about my experience learning Chinese. He asked how many Chinese people lived in New York, where I’m from, and whether they were willing to speak to me in Mandarin.

An older man with a bad back, who has driven a cab for his entire adult life, said there is nothing good about his job. He complained about the dues he has to pay the cab company: 400 RMB (~ $60) every day. The four major cab companies in Shanghai — Dazhong, Jinjiang, Haibo, and Qiangsheng — all have their own policies regarding how drivers pay dues, but they all require a share.

Another driver compared me to my younger sister, Abby, who sat in the backseat. He thought she was older than me. “Meimei [younger sister] has the reddish glow of a married woman,” he said. The conversation turned toward the subject of marriage. He asked me what I think of men, and after hearing my answer, he predicted that my sister will get married before me.

“How did he know?” Abby and I asked in unison.

Photo of the day: Xintiandi Xmas Selfies

This week’s photo theme is China Plaza Xmas: ostentatious Christmas mall displays in China’s mostly secular megacities.

In the background here you can see Rolling X, a massive Christmas-tree-inside-a-snow-globe that dominates the plaza outside upscale Shanghai mall Xintiandi at the moment. It’s really something — a pulsing, flashing, ambient-music-blaring conglomeration of steel and wires, with an internal slide traveling three stories from its apex down to a ball pit at ground level, and a huge line of kids and parents waiting for their crack at said slide. We’ll have a video of this impressive bit of Xmas architecture — along with some quotes from its builders, Dogma Lab — later in the week, but for now here’s a preview of just how selfie-inspiring this thing is.

Photo of the day: Raffles Christmas Bestiary

This week’s photo theme is China Plaza Xmas: ostentatious Christmas mall displays in China’s mostly secular megacities.

We already previewed this particular assemblage earlier in the month:

But here’s a daytime shot — submitted by Radii’s Hutong Jiemei columnists — so that you can fully appreciate what’s going on. This setup outside the Raffles City mall near Dongzhimen in central Beijing features a life-sized reindeer spinning around in an artificial forest populated by conifers and owls. It cuts a striking balance with the glittering glass skyscrapers surrounding it on all sides.

Zhibo: “Small Fresh Meat” and the Art of Sanguinity (Part 1)

[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]Zhibo is a weekly column in which Beijing-based American Taylor Hartwell documents his journey down the rabbit hole of Chinese livestreaming app YingKe. If you know nothing about the livestreaming (直播; “zhibo”) phenomenon in China, start here.

When I first started down the zhibo (livestreaming) rabbit hole, I mentioned that popularity on Yingke seems to revolve around a sort of *holy trinity* of appealing characteristics: talent, attractiveness, and humor.

Six months and millions of clicks later, I can’t honestly claim to have much more of an in-depth understanding of what drives livestreaming success. One of my frustrations with Yingke has been the lack of data — you can’t sort through your fans in any way other than scrolling down the list, there’s no available demographics or analytics that I’m aware of, and feedback is essentially limited to what you can read in your streaming room. Imagine if all a YouTuber had to go on was the comments section…

 

Not advised

But there is one direct way to see what people think of you – Yingke’s yinxiang (印象, “impressions”) system.

When you’re watching a streamer, there’s a wide variety of attributes you can “tag” them with. These range from describing external appearance to sound quality and even personality/character. Use Yingke for long enough, and you’ll end up collecting quite a few of them — the more of an impression you make, the more impressions you get.

Despite Yingke’s unwillingness to give hosts the kind of analytical data that would come standard with most Western platforms, yinxiang tags offer at least some kind of relevant info in terms of how your audience views you. To that end, I figured I’d sift through my 1,000-odd yinxiang and see what kind of impression (bahdoom psh) I’m making on the Chinese livestreaming audience.

Not a great one, apparently

幽默风趣 — Funny and Interesting (331)

Initially, I thought attractiveness (primarily of the female variety) would be far and away the most important thing on Yingke, but I think I underestimated the degree to which viewers open the app to simply be entertained. People flip through the streaming rooms like TV channels (remember those?) and although a pretty face will certainly get their attention, it seems that having some personality goes a long way towards keeping that attention for longer than a few seconds. The fact that (almost) every popular streamer seems to have the same external sound card with which they continuously play the same laugh track shows that fast-paced humor is in high demand on Yingke.

Youmou fengqu (幽默风趣, “funny and interesting”) is my most-tagged yinxiang, so I suppose I must be doing something right. To some degree, people are always going to mark me as “interesting” by pure virtue of novelty and “funny” because watching someone struggle to speak a language is pretty funny, in a “look, he thinks he’s people!” kind of way. But my goal on zhibo is to come across goofy, so I guess my shtick is working.

It’s kind of like this

型男 — Fashionable/Good Looking (262)

This one confused me at first because xing (型) simply means “type,” and nan (男) means male — so it seemed more like a straightforward category than a tag or impression. But it turns out that xingnan (型男) is commonly used as slang for a well-dressed/handsome guy (they said it, not me).

 

小鲜肉 — “Small Fresh Meat” (62)

Much has already been written about the term xiao xian rou (小鲜肉) which literally translated means “small fresh meat.” Less literally, it refers to young guys who are handsome in a somewhat “feminine” way — well groomed, sharp features, nice hair, that sort of thing.

Given the average height and average propensity for facial hair around here, it makes sense that male beauty ideals would go more in the slim fashion model direction and less in the burly lumberjack direction, but my understanding of xiao xian rou is that there are also connotations of youth and cuteness, and even innocence — look up TF Boys for the dictionary definition.

I attribute my lack of small fresh meat tags to my towering 5’8” height and occasional manly stubble.

I’m basically a lumberjack

儒雅绅士 — “Scholarly and Refined Gentleman” (190)

*pause for delirious laughter*

Ok, look, here’s how this one happens. People ask why I’m on Yingke, I say it’s to practice Chinese, they say that’s very studious of me, I say oh shucks. Straightforward enough.

I actually did a search for this yinxiang just to see what sorts of streamers are *primarily* thought of as scholars/gentleman, and it turns out that there’s a whole bunch of calligraphy channels dedicated purely to blowing your mind with their character-writing skills:

Respect, Yingke. You’re deeper than I thought.

Come back next week for Part 2: Sunshine boys, sarcasm, and gender-specific sanguinity.

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